The Uninvolved Parenting Style

The uninvolved parenting style is the way people go about parenting without really parenting. Do you know any uninvolved parents?

These folks are really checked out from their kids, being generally unresponsive to their children and, unlike authoritarian parenting, they set few limitations or boundaries for their kids. I say that they aren't really present in their role. Others call this style indifferent or even neglectful, since often the children's needs may go without being met.

This might come across as being too busy for their kids, and Uninvolved Parenting Style certainly the children eventually may feel this from their parents.

Because few limitations are set, kids that grow up under this poor parenting can tend to have low self esteem and lack accomplishments. Some say that, of all of the types of parenting styles, this one might be the most harmful to children long-term. Dr. Maryann Rosenthal, a clinical family psychologist and best selling author states that this type of parent can "sow a lifetime of havoc by their indifference or inability to deal with their children."

Personally, I don't see as much of this. But it is prevalent. Some of the time, the parents aren't wanting to neglect their children. Often, though, parents are just too involved in their own interests, and sometimes, they either didn't know the responsibility level of being a parent before they became one, or never wanted to be a parent to begin with.

As I said, I really am fortunate that I haven't had to see first hand very many truly neglectful parents. I have, however, known many parents who, it seems, can't be bothered by their children's needs; it's just too much effort. I'm not sure if they just get tired of trying with their kids which eventually led to checking out, or if they just became too self-absorbed.

People who don't have involvement in their children's lives, those that really has no positive impact on their kids at all, might fall into the category of a deadbeat parent. These children end up being helpless victims to the treatment (or lack of treatment) of their parents.

Dr. Maryann Rosenthal:

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